Dating Online: Extortion


How The Online Dating Extortion Scam Works:

(with example video below) Finding love in the internet age usually requires at least a toe-dip into the pool of online dating. But the FBI is warning internet daters about an extortion scam making the rounds of dating site chat rooms. How does the scam work?

Watch the video below to see the Extortion Scam exposed:

Online Dating Extortion Scam Video

In this scam, unsuspecting victims begin a chat conversation with a potential match. After establishing trust, the scammer will start to initiate more sexual conversation.

Once many messages have been swapped, the scammer will then post the intimate conversations, along with your name and a picture, on a website saying that you are a cheater — or simply they just post a picture of you showing a little bit too much skin.

They offer to take down the incriminating information – after you have paid them hundreds of dollars. Once the money exchanges hands, the information remains on the site. The FBI warns that the victims so far seem to be comprised of divorced women over the age of 40.

Other online dating schemes include the Real Love ScamBackground CheckFree Meal ApproachSex Extortion, and the Secret Admirer Card Scam.


How To Avoid The Online Dating Extortion Scam:

It may seem obvious, but has to be said: never, ever engage in sexual conversation online. You really don't know to whom you are speaking and the possibility of extortion is very real, as is the chance of your reputation being ruined.

Many potential employers nowadays do online searches of promising candidates. Needless to say, this type of irresponsible behavior will absolutely lead to your resume finding its way to the shredder.


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There is a good rule of thumb for online conversation; if you wouldn't be embarrassed to show it to your parents (or your pastor) then it's appropriate.


How To Report The Online Dating Extortion Scam:

Make your family and friends aware of this scam by sharing it on social media using the buttons provided. You can also officially report the scammers to the Federal Trade Commission using the link below:

Report To The FTC Here


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Valerie Schmidt

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Thanks, I have had more than one of these types of scams tried to be pulled on me.

Charles Barnard

"Needless to say, this type of irresponsible behavior will absolutely lead to your resume finding its way to the shredder."

That may or may not be true even today, but in the future it will become less and less so because the current generation has posted their lives, and EVERYONE makes mistakes!

One failure in judgement should not destroy a life–that is basic to society, and vitally necessary in a world where everything is recorded and people live 3-4 or more times the typical lifespan of a century ago.


beware of a girl calling herself Pamella Taylor, claiming to be from Ontario, Canada. She will add you on social media and then ask you to do video chat.

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