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Online Dating Scam: How It Works

Online dating and its scammers. Beware. With the advancement of technology, the crime is bigger than ever in this niche, whether we are talking about scams that are related to face-to-face meetings, Valentine's Daypartner's background or dates from Tinder. Feel free to report names as well in the Comments section. 

Let's take a closer look. Whether you are a male or a female, you should read this as the scenario below could easily apply to either gender. Months of online dating doesn't seem to be paying off. You're flipping through hundreds of profiles a night, and everyone's either shallow or not that good looking.

You finally think your luck is turning around when something magic happens:

– If you are a man, you hear from a lonely widow from Eastern Europe or East Africa (or, as of recently, she says she is on a cruise – the latest example is a girl named Lola Smith, see her fake story below). She is gorgeous in her pictures and seems really into you!

– If you are a woman, you just connected with a man working or being a soldier overseas. He say he's in the impossibility of talking on the phone.

This scam is different than the other online dating tricks, such as the Free Meal Scheme, New In Town, Sex Extortion or Admirer Card. Let's keep reading.


Are Your The Love Of His/Her Life? Think again.

After a few emails, you start to fall in love – and are thrilled to hear the person you met reciprocates, calling you (after four to five months) “the love of her life.” When it comes time for you two to get together, she tells you she needs money. Perhaps she can't afford a plane ticket. Maybe she's sick and needs medicine. Maybe she lost her wallet in a foreign city or maybe she had a flood or a fire at her home.

Or, one of the latest reasons…she needs to take an AIDS test, which is required in her country before international travel.


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Whatever it is, it seems like a small price to pay for true love – and it would be, if the love were “true.” But this isn't who you thought it was – she may not even be a woman, but a guy in Nigeria. Don't feel bad: tens of thousands of men and women have fallen victim to this and tens of thousands more will (unless, of course, you spread the word about our website).

Watch the video below to see the story of an online dating victim who lost 1 million dollars:



What makes the typical online dating scam even worse is that most of the victims refuse to believe they have been scammed, even after they lost the first round of cash. They'll keep putting in money, truly believing they are helping a future life-mate and ignore all advice from friends.

Here are some screenshots of a scammer called Lola Smith (Lollipop), claiming to be a widow with a 5-year old son. She says she is on a cruise and can't talk nor take pictures. She asks the victims to connect with her mom, only to send money.

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How To Avoid The Online Dating Scam

As a rule of thumb, you should never pay for somebody you have never met. If she insists on you paying for the plane ticket, buy it for her directly with no refund option. At least that way, he/she can't just take the money and run.


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Another suggestion would be to run their name (even if they are fake) by professional companies that provide background checking of online dating users. There are just a few legitimate companies that provide this service. One of these companies is Social Catfish, which is an official, validated business meant to help you with reverse lookup to search and verify identities. Check their website – you will be on good hands as they are very professional.

On the other hand, if you're really looking to meet some interesting people without risks, you can join exclusive life-changing experiences like The Spark Experience, which consists of once-in-a-lifetime trips featuring countless bucket list items to be checked off in many locations around the world: Italy, Brazil, Maldives, Curacao, Argentina, Transylvania or Cartagena. Although is not a matchmaking-specific event, many participants vowed to be a life-changing endeavor. Here is how one experience looks like below (you can enter your name for the next The Spark Experience on their website):


How To Report The Online Dating Scam:

Make your family and friends aware of this scam by sharing it on social media using the buttons provided. You can also officially report the scammers to the Federal Trade Commission using the link below:

Report Scammers To The FTC Here


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there are scammers all over the dating sites. I was on Jdate and one found me. He pulled the clasic routine " I love you" blah blah blah…and all the other red flags like usig i instead of I, wanting immediately to go to private email from the dating site, giving a tall tale about his life, he was FRENCH, etc etc etc. I played along with it for a couple of days and then confronted him with the fact that he sounded just like a typical dating scammer…he sent me a (fake I am sure) scanned picture of his… Read more »


Beware of a criminal who uses the name Carl Thompson on Facebook!!!


One more scammer for all the guys: Oksana Eckaewa. Watch out for her. Her email address is


Another name is Kelvin Moore Milner. He ask me to add friend to him in Skype then for few weeks where so close we even talk in video and then in the long run we are close he ask me to get blackberry to his son and send it and he will just send the money after few days.a lot of photos of him in scam. He told me his working in US army peacekeeper in Kabul.His asking me to get mobile phone when I saw his photos in other site that he have loads of victims in scamming so… Read more »

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Beware Sarah Stewart. She will tell you she is in love with you and wants to be a family with you and then try to rob you blind. She says she is american in malaysia for her antiques.


i have friend (Date online) he told me that he is a widower with a child, work for FarSamson-520 Petroleum Ship company. He has sent me email everyday for the first he need some money to his child for medical treatment, then continuous need cost for departmental school and pocket money and i have to send to someone in UK. when we were get closed, he said that he have parcel will be send to me…and surprised the delivery parcel need cost sum of thousands US dollars to another address at Nigeria and i don’t know i always send money… Read more »


Beware of Sharon Brown, Crystal Rose, Power Ball on facebook.


I friended a lady from Jacksonville Fl. whom asked me for money to sent to her. Then I was approached again on facebook by a man on facebook whom I liked and began an email connection. As he got to know me he began to ask me for large amounts of money all of a sudden. He was also from Jacksonville Fl. I did not give him money and eventually he became very buligerent with me…I really like the person although after time I realized he was a scammer as eventually I found out he was connected with the female… Read more »


A scammer for all the gals Phone numbers are as follows: 44705503663,44024010391(904)414 3947. Used the name Robert John Morgan and even sent me a fake passport photo along with a picture of his dog. I will be honest, I loved the man in the photo and his dog but they are/were also victims. Said he was from Jacksonville Fl. with a sister named Sharon Brown also from Jacksonville. When he called his number was blocked – he also had a foreign accent. Said he was Spanish. Take care…he is very convincing saying he is a good man and just… Read more »


To Olive in response to comment you posted on 27/2/13
I too have been getting emails from a guy why claims to work for farsamson520, he says he is a widower with one child..Is it possible that you could give me his alias name and even possibly a picture of this man? thank you for the usefull information…

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